Introverts can be trained in social skills

Source: The Hitavada      Date: 13 Aug 2017 15:07:01


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Q. My daughter is in B Pharm (final year). She does not want to do MPharm and wants to know what are the prospects in Pharmacy and other related fields such as IPR, food and science technology, and cosmetology. She needs a detailed guidance from you as she is confused. Please help.

Ans. Yes, it would help her to come for a session on career guidance. We need to check her interest areas and her personality traits to take a decision about what would suit her and make her happy. Since she has already made one wrong decision of joining pharmacy and wants to change the line now it will be better to go about it systematically this time rather than superficially. There are many courses she could join but I need to talk to the candidate. She should not worry about her future for there are many chances of switching over career lines and seeking a career to your liking and satisfaction.

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Q. I am a 63-year-old retired government officer leadingacomfortablelife.ButI’mtroubledbymywife’sbehaviour.Sheis57-years old and she visite d her maternal home last year and was influenced by a palm reader. He told her that I have affairs with several women and also that she faced a threat from my family. From that day onward, she has become very suspicion and keeps nagging me. I have tried to help, but she is not willing to improve nor visit a psychiatrist. Please advice.

Ans. As understood by you rightly, your wife would need a psychiatric consultation and medicine too. She has suspicion levels that are beyond levels if she thinks you have affairs with four to five women. Even one affair can upset your wife and I believe that you have not given her any cause for doubting you at all and all that she thinks is a figment of her imagination. If she refuses to visit the psychiatrist, which is typical of such disorders, then you should visit one and narrate your story. He will help you find a way out for treating her. She will become a fine lady like before once she is treated. Have faith and patience. Treat her with sympathy and kindness for she is ill and not in her logical mind.

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Q. I am studying Cosmetology (III yr) and have lot of problems. I don’t have any friends to support me and be with me and that’s one of my issues. I need someone to love me and pamper me as my parents only pamper my younger brother. Not that I am jealous or but I do need love and attention and lack of it makes me feel lonely. I feelworthless and rejected as if nobody cares for me. I also have issues regarding my career. I don’t know if I should do MTech or MBA after BTech. My dad wants me to do MBA but I am not smart enough for it. I am shy, have stage freight and also an introvert. I also have issues with my father. No matter what I say he is never happy with me. We fight quite frequently. I’m depressed and I want to get myself of this mess as soon as possible. Please help me.

Ans. We can certainly help you with all your problems that have been mentioned above. Your introverted nature creates certain demands and obstructions in the proper functioning of your social self which we can help you with .You can also improve your relationship with your father for both love each other. Your decision for post graduation needs to be looked into carefully with you personally .You would need some sessions of counselling and we could address all your issues. Rest assured that you are a normal person with normal problems and need to train and develop your personality.