Believe in yourself

Source: The Hitavada      Date: 20 Aug 2017 11:58:35


I am in Class X and I not able to concentrate on my studies at all. My mind wanders off when I sit to study. I am deeply attracted to boys and frequently lie to my parents. I also stole money from my house some time back. Though my parents came to know of my misdeed and were very disappointed with me, I do not feel any guilt. I’m also very rude while speaking to them. I keep repeating mistakes that I make, despite resolving otherwise. Moreover, I keep eating junk food despite being overweight. I’m also in a relationship. But now I want to change myself and study hard. I want them to be proud of me and improve my behaviour. My parents believe I can score 90% if I study well, though I’m an average student. Please help me Ma’am, I’m very tensed..

Ans: That is a long list of problems indeed! But the good part is that you are aware of your bad behaviour and bad nature and want to improve it. When you become aware of your own nature and desire change it will happen surely. Just start doing a few things. One, is when you get up in the morning tell yourself that is going to be a good day and that good things are going to happen to you. Secondly, pray daily for a few minutes and calm your mind. Thirdly do some sort of physical exercise whatever suits you. Thirdly, help your mother in the house and chat with her for some time. There are some meditation practices that you need to learn to help you concentrate. We could help you with that. Try this and then get back to me again.

 I am 19-year-old boy and feel very lonely. From last one year, I was so involved in my studies that Is topped socialising with my friends and relatives. Now I feel that they ignore me. Please give me some solutions to make things better.

Ans: Yes, this happens as you rightly say that friends get hurt if you ignore them for too long. You could try apologizing to them or just try getting back in touch by calling them now and then. They will not ignore you for too long and will understand your situation. They will forgive you for you are good boy and have no harm to others. People understand once to re-connect with them.

I have just started college with BA Economics as subject and wants to join Civil Service through UPSC but I failed in Class 12th due to Mathematics. I was preparing for IIT from 11th, though I was bad in PCM. After lot of hard work this year I scored decently in JEE Mains to get me a Government Engineering college but my heart is not into it. Though I always had a dream to join IIT, now I want to get into IAS. I’m confused between IIT or IAS. I’m scared to begin my journey as I don't want to disappoint myself. What should I do?

 Ans: If you find mathematics tough then it is better you did not take up engineering. IIT would be a distant dream if the aptitude for mathematics is low. You have done the right thing by choosing economics for you can become an IAS even by doing economics. Forget about the past and focus on the future. Prepare for the IAS examinations and do well in BA. Score as high as you can in economics. It is a great subject and has a great future even if you do not get into the IAS for some reasons. Work hard and believe in yourself and your choices.