Develop the HABIT OF learning from defeat

Source: The Hitavada      Date: 15 Jul 2018 11:49:34


 

By T G L IYER,

M ost people are scared of failure. Don’t take failure too seriously. Go ahead and play the game fully. When you create a bunch of failures, embrace them. Because like schooling they are lessons. I know the case of a man who succeeded in passing the sub Inspectors test. Later, he qualified for the Indian Police Service and he confided that if he had joined as a Sub Inspector, he would have become a Deputy Superintendent of Police while retiring.

Now he has a chance to become a Director General of Police. Often, we measure the value of our lives by what we accomplish. We set our goals and conduct our life with the intention of making money, have a home, win medals and in the end have adequate pension. But if we can contribute something to improve the quality of life of another person, there is nothing like it! We merely make an effort to win medals and promotions and in the end retire almost doing nothing. My neighbor a retired man comes to me and says: “I come to spend some time as it is boring to sit alone and stirring thoughts of no value!” Jayes Cary, the American author wrote “It is the tragedy of the World that no one knows what he does not know.

Less the man knows, the more sure he is that he knows everything.” There was a man who was born in poverty and said: “Everyone knows that I am born in poverty and there is no escaping it. Each forward step we take, we leave some phantom of ourselves behind. For most people, the future looks like a mere extension of the past. In fact, the quality of your future depends on your effort, improved quality of work and the great satisfaction that you have done your maximum!” My teacher used to say: “We don’t need losers to have winners. You don’t have to defeat someone to become a winner. Winning is an internal process.

An inner-directed person refuses to label himself as a loser. On a single day, no one is better than anyone else. It is only necessary to cultivate a winning philosophy. No comparisons are required to evaluate yourself. We can learn even from a single experience. Every happening should be taken as an invitation to grow than an evidence of deficiency! Someone is happy and another sad, depending on the thoughts we create in our minds. But the ultimate aim is to derive satisfaction in having lived a satisfactory life. Elbert Hubbard said once: “One machine can do the work of fifty ordinary men. No machine can do the work of one extra-ordinary man”. When we plant a tree and water it, its roots go deep in search of moisture. In fact, deprivation benefits man whereas comfort and ease weakens. The Bible talks about God making streams in the desert, planting things where they were never before like love in place of hatred. These streams are real because that is how deserts are converted into blooming gardens.” Lonens Nizer writes: “A man who works with his hands is a labourer; a man who works with his hand and brain is a craftsman; a man who works with his hands, brain and heart is an artist.

While the efforts are in our hands, the results are not. If you don’t stand for something you will fall for everything. What on Earth would a man do with himself if something did not stand in his way. Conquest in a great art and it can be repeated any number of times.” A Wiseman once said: “You can tell that a child is growing up when he stops asking where he come from and starts refusing to tell where he is going!” The human mind is a powerful machinery. The human mind that is properly disciplined and directed to definite ends is an irresistible power that recognises no such reality as permanent defeat. It converts defeat into victory; stepping stones into stumbling blocks, hitches its wagon to a star and captures the forces of the Universe for fulfillment of goals.

The man who masters himself through self-discipline can never be mastered by others. In spite of the power of the mind, people make no attempt to use or utilise this power. They suffer themselves to become cured by fears of difficulties which do not exist except in their own imagination! Successful man gets his start through the application of self-discipline, in pursuit of a definite purpose and he carries on, until he attains that purpose. Successful men may appreciate commendation but they can move and inspire themselves without them! If in the end, we can say that we have tried our best, that would be glorious.