Time we woke up to save our youngsters -- II

Source: The Hitavada      Date: 02 Sep 2018 09:44:21






- Vijay Phanshikar,

THE same old story. The same old arguments. The same old, nay ancient, frustrations -- about youngsters going out of control in countless homes. “My son just does not listen to me”, said a male bank executive. “Our daughter just stares at us when we try to tell her a thing or two,” said an exasperated mother whose work keep her away from home every day for 8-10 hours. The complaints are universal in nature, and everybody feels irritated enough when told to check the conduct of the youngsters in the family. This appears to be a senseless activity trying to keep the youngsters in control. 

Let us not carry an impression, however, that every youngster behaves in such a manner. There are countless youngsters whose overall conduct is very good, very decent, and they follow the general norms of family discipline and civic behaviour. Many of these youngsters spend time reading good books, eating a quiet dinner with everybody in the family, help mothers in household chores and fathers in tending gardens to washing cars and two-wheelers.
Yet, if these youngsters form certain section of the society, the other ones whose conduct is almost the opposite, form a larger section. And that is the matter of worry.
This is one subject on which this column has dwelled on countless occasions. Yet, this is also the very subject that needs a still deeper and more mature handling than just dishing out advice and delivering speeches. This is one subject that needs a very serious and collective handling at home and schools or colleges. For, by way of wayward conduct of increasing number of youngsters, a very dangerous social threat looming large over the horizon, waiting to pounce upon us and drown us in its filthy wake.
Hence the alarm.

Hence the notice. Hence the appeal for all to wake up in time and make efforts to check waywardness of youngsters.  There could be umpteen reasons why youngsters tend to go berserk. Some of the reasons have been identified correctly, and some are still making us grope in darkness.

The details apart, all deep thought and prayer bring us to one conclusion -- that things could be mended on this front only in families and schools and colleges.

Unfortunately, we are refusing to learn the right lessons for our families. We refuse to recognise that the family is not the same good, old place which was a final resort to everybody. There are four walls and a roof over the head, but that entity still does not become home until the people who live inside live together with a sense of deep bonding. One of the points of concern is this -- absence of the good, old sense of deep bonding among members. There are countless channels through which certain divisiveness invades us -- the television, the mobiles on which we can access the filthiest of filths in life, the consumerist tendencies that pull us out of the home every now and then -- for legitimate-sounding reasons.

Naturally, in such an atmosphere, teenage youngsters are generally the first ones to get distracted and distorted. And then begins the issue of controlling them.
And then follows a flood of complaints.
There is good body of evidence that some families try most sincerely to control their youngsters’ waywardness. Yet, the evidence that things are moving the other way round is bigger than the ‘good’  evidence.
How do we sort this out?
Perhaps, all of us will have to get together in whatever manner ...!