Expiry date for grudges

SHADES OF GREY BY RITA AGGARWAL Consulting Psychologist I am always amazed with the huge emotional baggage that people carry on their heads and hearts for years! They can go into a rewind within seconds and bring out the vivid details of the past hur..

Emotional healing after post trauma vital

  EMOTIONS BY RITA AGGARWAL S M I am 26-year-old working girl. My parents have been looking for a guy for me since last two years and lately they are pressurising me to get married. But the very thought of it scares me. It has happened that on ..

Love and care for your mind

SHADES OF GREY BY RITA AGGARWAL ‘When you suffer a physical illness, you get sympathy. However when you suffer a mental illness, all you get is shame and ridicule’. Why? The stigma attached to mental illness is huge and hence a big barrie..

Niagara By Dr Pragati Vasant Khalatkar

    Niagara By Dr Pragati Vasant Khalatkar ‘Falling in love at first sight’ phrase might have had its origin at Niagara falls. As you walk towards the fall, the humming sound of Niagara fall starts hypnotising you and once you r..

Mobile addiction is a disorder now

  Q.I am 37 years old male working in an IT firm. After spending eight hours in the office, I head back home everyday. I was doing fine but now I have started realising that my life is not going anywhere. I just feel stuck on one place. I feel lik..

Be a volunteer and be purposefully employed

  By RITA AGGARWAL (Consulting Psychologist)   Q. I am 24 years old guy. I am in love with my cousin. I feel terrible to even say this, but it happened two years back when we met. She has no clue that I have these feelings and I know I am n..

Bridging the communication gap

  SHADES OF GREY BY RITA AGGARWAL,   Consulting Psychologist ‘Mom, why do you always see the negative side of reality?’ asked her daughter Tina. ‘What negative side are you talking of ’, asks Mom? ‘Why do you a..

KAZIRANGA An opera in wild &asonata in serenity

  By SOMEN SENGUPTA, The inexplicable excitement of Kaziranga can only be compared with a live demonstration of Nat-Geo Wild channel watched with naked eyes. The world inside Kaziranga national park of Assam is mystic yet natural. It is because t..

Go and adopt a child

      Q. I am 21 years old female. I like one guy. He seems to like to me first and used to text me and call me all the time. He made me feel special and gave me lot of attention. But now he is acting distant and weird. I am scared if ..

Marriage counselling and guidance vital

    Q. I am 45-year-old man and I have a daughter who is 22 years old. She had an affair before about which I got to know after I saw her phone. Since then I have become very insecure as I want her to marry a guy whom I like. I think my inse..

The many faces of happiness - III

  BY RITA AGGARWAL, Consulting Psychologis Happiness is the most needed virtue today as we realise that so many good aspects of life are on the decline- such as mental health, physical health, ethical values, moral behaviour, social decency, hon..


  By RAMESH KANITKAR,  interesting debate is taking place among stakeholders and enthusiasts in the Indian startup ecosystem. It pertains to whether consumer internet companies should aim for sustainable profitability or gun for complete mar..

Meditate to handle stress

EMOTIONS BY RITA AGGARWAL C K My husband is showing signs of stress and has begun shouting at me and the children. He has a difficult job and we try to adjust to his needs but now it is becoming unbearable. Even I feel drained of energy with burden o..


                  SHADES OF GREY BY RITA AGGARWAL Martin Seligman, the founder of the Positive Psychology movement in the USA, mentions an experiment in his famous book, Authentic Happiness, on sch..


  SHADES OF GREY  By RITA AGGARWAL When there is hunger in the stomach, intake of food gives a great sense of relief and happiness. When a poor beggar finds money on the road, he feels lucky and happy. When you are tired and sleepy after a ..

Geysers to Glaciers It’s ‘hot’

  By AASAWARI SHENOLIKAR, New Zealand, a tiny nation made up of two islands North Island and South Island is a dream destination for travellers. A couple of weeks is too lessatime to explore the unique landscapes and stunning beauty . Dominated ..

Not such a green scenario

  BELIEVE IT OR NOT Carbon released by plant respiration may be around 30 per cent higher than previously predicted, a study has found. Researchers from the University of Minnesota in the US suggest that as the mean global temperature increases,..

What is important is that lies within us

  By T G L IYER, Ideas are energised by you during your regular workday. If you require a great idea, suddenly your mind scans quickly. You mentally pull what you need out of your mental storehouse. You will use it by reflex correcting and perfec..

Do not be a permanent spouse-counsellor

Wilson Q. I am 24 years old male. I am doing my training as a pilot, two more years are left in the training. I met one girl online on dating site tinder. We hit it off really well and since last one month I am talking to her and we are on good note. Ev..


  By ARUN KUMAR, Period of Journey Between June to September every year. Rest of the year is snow covered and non-approachable. How to go Since Kailash Mansarovar falls in Tibet, China, visa or permit is required for Indian Citizens. There are 2 ..

Life is a continuous process to explore your potential

    By T G L IYER, THE Right way to live is to cultivate right thoughts, do right action, cultivate right behavior, form right habits, have right attitudes and reach the right destiny. In each area of your life, it is extremely important to..

The Benefit Finder

BY RITA AGGARWAL, Consulting Psychologist, SHADES OF GREY I remember the quote by Henry David Thoreau, (the philosopher and author of Walden), that “the faultfinder will find faults even in paradise!”We all know and have experienced the &ls..

Heal your wounds

Q. I am 21 years old girl. I am studying Science. Since I was a little kid my dad used to physically abuse me. He used to yell at me and thrash me very badly. Whenever I think about it I still feel very scared and it messes up my mind. I am not able to ca..

The mind moves you towards your dominant thoughts

  By T G L IYER, If you do not have the foundation for greatness, you will find ways and means of striking back at the person who injured you and possibly go so far as to cause that person to lose his job. In the event you will be the more unfort..

SALZBURG Soulful Sojourn Into The World Of Symphony

  By DR SWAPNA KHANZODE, Life is truly seasons, sometimes dry arid summer, sometimes beautiful spring or sometimes just a transition like autumn.. but in all the phases, there is one thing in common, come what may, there is alwa..

Stop the violence

Q. Since last two- three years, I have developed the problemof over-thinking things. A continuous cycle of unwanted thoughts remain in my mind all the time and despite trying, I’m unable to get rid of them. It is affecting my studies and I have lost..

Clear the clutter from your mind

                  Harsh   I am 21 years old. I am addicted to alcohol and drugs. I tried quitting it, but I am not able to. I even steal money from my parents and my girlfriend's purse. I am sc..

Letting them go

EMOTIONS By RITA AGGARWAL                   NS My child is behaving badly since some months. He is 9-years-old and good in studies. Though he is very active at home, he sits quietly in the school...

Make yourself employable

                  Anonymous  Q: Recently, you might have heard about the lost girlfrom my town Amravati. She is a 12-13year girl who went missing. After police and family drama, the girl was tr..

Jaldapara National Park:

  By SOMEN SENGUPTA, Where beasts nest in beauty  Be prepared for anything once you enter Jaldapara National Park of Doars. Anything means any event that can be counted as a sheer delight or a massive disappointment to a wildlife enthusiast..

Expand the circle of relations

Q. I'm a student of class XI from Bhilai. I want to pursue a career as a singer in English music, abroad. I take Hindi vocal classes and can sing well, but I want to become an English singer as I'm more passionate about English music. Should I go for it? ..

Purposeful engagement

Q. I am in class 12 right now, and less than 4 months remain for my boards! But whenever I sit to study, lot of thoughts crowd my mind. Though I push them away, they keep coming back. Please help me focus better. Ans. This is more like a symptom of worr..

Saving depressed young minds

  Ashi was irritated most of the times and she would lose patience with her younger sister. She had a school board examination on her head and she was worried of the outcome and her results. She did not like missing even a single mark in her exami..

Take a minute, change a life

By RITA AGGARWAL Ihope you are not thinking of suicide”, asked the counsellor. He smiled, looked into her penetrating eyes and said meekly “how did you know”. “I have been thinking about it for quite some time now. The only pers..

A stitch in time saves nine

  ■ By RITA AGGARWAL (Consulting Psychologist) A stitch in time saves nine The columnist can be reached at B/301, Shat -Tarka Aptts, Surendra Nagar, R.P.T.S Road, Nagpur, or on 7719975840, 2220250 and 2223322. She can also be reached at rita_aggar..

Face the challenge

EMOTIONS By RITA AGGARWAL A C Q.I am 21 years old and the only earning member of my family. My father is unemployed since last one year and hence I have to work to support my family as we have a loan of 20 lakh. I had a fight with my best friend and ..

Believe in yourself

I am in Class X and I not able to concentrate on my studies at all. My mind wanders off when I sit to study. I am deeply attracted to boys and frequently lie to my parents. I also stole money from my house some time back. Though my parents came to know ..

Introverts can be trained in social skills


Expectations in proportion

SHADES OF GREY BY RITA AGGARWAL I t is commonplace to think that we should have expectations in life for we must look forward to greater and better things and plan a good life for ourselves. But wise sages say we should not have expectations in life f..


My children are very fond of junk food. Now, I am worried about them as lately I realised that it is not good for them. My son eats noodles and wants it daily in tiffin. I am a working mother and confess that I have made fast food at times to save time ..

Lonavala and Lavasa

  By DR PRATIKSHA MAYEE S ummer heat in Nagpur simply gets unbearable in the month of May. Schools and colleges tend to reopen towards the end of June so one tends to have a vacation before the routine sets in. With the onset of monsoon the West..

Victims of coaching fads

  Q.I am a student of Pharmacy and I was in relationship with my classmate for one year. Last April, he broke up with me for another girl. Though he has drastic mood swings, he continues to be my best friend. Despite being in a relationship, he ge..

Save girls from seduction by adults

Q. It seems my friend is involved with some person whois above 50 years in age. She is just 19. He comes to herhome regularly. He is married. She often goes with himforlongdrives.Herparentsbelievehimblindly.Shepassedher 12th standard with 53%. She score..

Be aware of psychological maladies

■ By RITA AGGARWAL (Consulting Psychologist)       Be aware of psychological maladies The columnist can be reached at B/301, Shat -Tarka Aptts, Surendra Nagar, R.P.T.S Road, Nagpur, or on 7719975840, 2220250 and 2223322. She can also ..

Knotty emotions

  SHADES OF GREY BY RITA AGGARWAL Consulting Psychologist   Asociety that believes in good behaviour may not allow expressions of negative emotions. But negative emotions outnumber positive emotions in our minds as we feel them at all time..

Look for beginning signs

    ■ By RITA AGGARWAL (Consulting Psychologist)Look for beginning signs The columnist can be reached at B/301, Shat -Tarka Aptts, Surendra Nagar, R.P.T.S Road, Nagpur, or on 7719975840, 2220250 and 2223322. She can also be reache..

The delightful Dal Lake

If one wishes to witness poetry vacillate in a fluidic form, to hear and feel a certain tranquility even amid the quandary, one must visit the delightful Dal Lake in Jammu &Kashmir. It is also popularly known as the ‘Jewel in Srinagar’s ..

Vadodara - the centre for art

March 22 (By G Brindha) Like other Gujarati cities, this cosmopolitan ‘hydrocarbon capital’ of India is more than a business center. Infact, as my host Manoj Sharma describes, Vadodara is more inclined to art and tradition than to..