By T G L IYER:
For all our insight, obstinate habits do not disappear until replaced by other habits. No amount of confession and no amount of explaining can make the crooked plant grow straight. It must be trained by the gardener’s art. Thanks to the world we live in, we have developed many habits that are the direct result of using our enthusiasm rather than our spirit. When a majority of society members are raised and persuaded to believe in the illusion of ego, then that society will develop firmly committed to that false self. Everywhere we turn, we are a target of someone wanting to sell us something. There are advertisements in trains, buses, on telephone poles and our cell phones on the radio and television that a person is confused what to buy and what to reject! Behind this round the clock blitz of information of new products or even an improved version of the old products, there are new things that invade the market and pick-up customers.
The market is always attacking the customer trying to convince how to be more happy in this complicated world. Calvin Coolidge, the American President during the 1920s is remembered for the following wonderful words than for anything else he did in office as President. He wrote “Press on: nothing can take the place of persistence, talent will not, for the world is full of unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not because the world is full of educated people.
Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. Before you start your journey before you determine exactly how you are going to get to where you want to go ask yourself ”. How badly do I want it? It is your right, now is the power to do things you never dreamed possible. The power becomes available to you just as soon as you can change your beliefs. During my over three decades in Police, I went to places and collected lot of unnecessary junk which I had to give it away to save space where I live.
People collect things and accumulate them and they don’t know how to get rid of them. So you give it free to your friends, relations and others to save space for new things to come in and occupy the space. A 25 years old hard line study at Harvard University has established in Precise Scientific terms that you can change motivation by changing the way you think about yourself and your circumstances. All motivation is selfmotivation. No one can motivate the others. Your rewards in life are more due to your behaviours and became a speaker or an orator.
The human mind acts on what you feed it. If your change your mental diet and eliminate the negative inputs you can became good and acceptable. A study in the University of California reveals that a person could acquire the equivalence of two years of College in three years of normal driving by listening to cassette recordings. People who listen to cassettes are happier, enthusiastic and excited in daily life. The rule is “When you are moving listen and when you are seated read! Saturate your mind with optimism. The drive that takes men to the top is the drive that thrives on constant nourishment and reinforcement. There is plenty of room at the top but not enough room to sit down. The nourishment should be mental, p h ysical and spiritual! Good habits are easy to acquire but difficult to live with. Dorothy Hicks, MD made studies in Florida in USA about rape. According to the study rape is not for sex but for violence. The rapist hates women and could care less about the age, looks or status of the female. They start as peeping toms enter bedrooms.
They start with non-violence which ultimately ends in violence! The habitual liar, the promiscuous individual who did not hear the alarm bells got a start in that manner. A slight compromise initially led to bigger issues until eventually the bad habit becomes a way of life. All bad habits start slowly and gradually before you realise you have the habit and the habit has you. Bad habits slowly take the toll until one day he decays and falls. Pornography starts slowly. It spreads and becomes acceptable and becomes a format for the viewer. The breakdown of morals start with a small conclusion. Once the barrier is lowered, it is easier to lower it further and it becomes a habit. The best way to stop a bad habit is not to start it. To be a good person you have to be on guard, be alert about and not became a victim. It is your attitude and your aptitude that determines your altitude.