Why doubt the doubting!!

 

 

BY RAMA WADKI 

 

 

WE HAVE been advised, warned or suggested at times- don’t make any room for any doubt. Hope you all agree with me. Alas doubting is such a habit, which you can’t get rid easily. It’s starts from the time you understand the meaning of this term, DOUBT. When you are a school going lad your parents & teachers always tell you- if you have any doubt better get it cleared. Really… tell me was it cleared or only partially answered or most of the times shirked off easily without reasoning as such. Being young & immature then, we take the half or quarter clarification as the whole answer to our doubts, poor we. As you grow, few more doubts creep in & while resolving you get another dimension to your doubts. Funny isn’t it. Wholeheartedly you struggle to get it clarified at times even try to generate better understanding within but leads to more confused state. Recently I came across few ever doubtful characters, I call them; ‘Forever Doubtful Species’, these people don’t believe in others easily as they doubt whoever they come across (LOL).

 

Actually these are same characters who believe in others easily, at one go, you know why, here they doubt themselves (OMG). Doubt n doubt all over, no one to clear even one, actually. One of my neighbours, almost 65 years old, his doubt is what should he do to overcome doubts, I immediately said; “sir go on a tour” (I had read it somewhere, when in doubt travel). He at once said ,”whether my wife will allow me to go alone”. “ Take her along”, I said. Without wasting a fraction he responded, “ Arre, she doesn’t have faith in me, I may be wrong, but I doubt.” Oh god, nothing can change you, keep doubting all the more. People always say, I may be wrong- but I really doubt. Oh good lord, what you doubt, whether you are right or not. What a fickle minded person you are, confusing & doubting the doubt. In fact, all these kinds should be handled with utmost care as they suffer from a rare disorder of being doubtful always, they get habituated to doubting. It becomes their lifestyle, really I mean it. It’s almost impossible to satisfy these souls.

 

Watch carefully someone very close to you, may be your life partner or your own relative or a close friend might be doubtful always. Not just others , at times they doubt themselves beyond limit., weird isn’t it. One can try to talk to them but please do not try to change them, if you try, they will doubt you little extra than before. Are you ready to face it. At times one should allow the wound to heal on its own. Don’t apply any antiseptic of care or love, even that will be looked at from the angle of doubt. The simple solution is let them be happy with this “Shak ka keeda” types. You just watch them & enjoy. Sabko sudharneka theka to liya hai hamne… Really mean it, tried level best to heal a few, instead being grateful they were more doubtful. Then thought, let them stay happy as they are- Full of doubts; and you be happy Totally doubt free., that’s what you are.